In Her Own Words
About Her
Widow....
Looking for a no drama, peaceful life going forward.
1 daughter 27. She will always need me in this journey we call life for maybe advice, love, support from time to time and versa visa....it is what it is I am all she has left...
I am not into the man role in a relationship...
It must calm my soul and bring softness else it's not worth it...
I am not into one night stands or any kind of hookups or lets see where this goes (at my age where do you want this to go..till 80 ? nah).......I keep my world clean. If you not sure where you going at this stage..well keep going...but skip me in total....Life is to short one day you will wakeup and your coffee will be cold...intimacy to me is sacred and not a cheap tool...
At this stage I have zero DESIRE For/To:
Chaos as I am Calmness and my world is SMALL..
Running someones household while they calavan..Nope..
Help someone else fix their lives or fixing your x'ses/ or even you (meds etc)...I went cold turkey through my saddest time and came out strong but I won't tolerate others uncapability to achieve the same..
Assist with unbalanced kids....they learn from you..
Nursing meaning like a full time thing as that's totally unfair...be responsible...
Family chaos..I have a small circle as I chose that....
Financial Chaos..Nope..
Assist with a laatlam because you couldn't control yourself as I have only 1 daughter 27 I realised at the time 1 is enough and I didn't use a precious human as a tool....
I am semi retired and not rich but i have managed to create a calm happy life as you can see I am a widow we lost in this life....BUT I have accepted my widowwood and took time out(3 Years) to heal... my life is calm as i keep it calm at all costs....hence I won't add any form of turmoil or stress or whatever that will disturb my calmness I managed to create after becoming a widow.
I want to LIVE
And be treated with respect in the woman role....as I respected my loved ones and gave them my all.
About Her Ideal Match
Stable in emotional intelligence non negotiable.
Would prefer if your kid/s are grownup and not in school anymore.....no x-ses that interferes or causes drama.....
Must be a stable man that can handle life stress and what it brings...
A grounded man....must remain calm under pressure as that's all it is a difficult season or a moment in time...this too shall pass...no reason to flip the apple card...
A.man that can provide emotional safety is where real riches reside the rest... well EGO driven.
If you still in a situationship, separation or your spouse passed away less than a year..also skip me as you still need healing and will forsure have a reboud relationship something I am not interested in......
If you have any form where you have neglected your loved ones or did jumping around from one person to another to sooth your fragile heart then you also not for me as it shows you haven't sat with your inner pain or turmoil and it will just at some point service again...
I am old school... so if you can't fillful the MAN role...well I Don't have my manual anymore....then get a muscular IT there's plenty out there...it seems..
I have zero room for the wrong person or willing to spent time on low energy things that won't feed my soul...
I am just honest and limit energy on talk time that wil lead no nowhere for both parties.
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About Her
Country of Origin: |
South Africa | |
Location: |
Pretoria (Lynnwood), Gauteng, South Africa | |
Gender: |
Female | |
Age: |
57 | |
Star Sign: |
Capricorn | |
Height: |
160cm (5' 3.0") | |
Body Type: |
Athletic | |
Looks: |
Ask me later | |
Hair Colour: |
Dark Brown | |
Eye Colour: |
Brown | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home Language: |
English | |
Other Languages: |
Ask me later | |
Religion: |
Christian / Other | |
Relationship Status: |
Widowed | |
Looking for: |
Activity partners; Long-term | |
Have Children: |
Yes, not living with me | |
Want Children: |
No | |
Daily Diet: |
Eat most things | |
Smoking: |
Ask me later | |
Drinking: |
Occasional Drinker | |
Education: |
Technical Diploma | |
Occupation: |
Ask me later | |
Income: |
Ask me later |
About Her Ideal Match
Country of Origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Western Cape; Eastern Cape; KwaZulu-Natal; Mpumalanga; Limpopo; Gauteng; North-West; Northern Cape; Free State, South Africa | ||
Gender: |
Male | ||
Age Range: |
53 - 63 | ||
Star Sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
175cm (5' 8.9") - 210cm (6' 10.7") or taller | ||
Body Type: |
Any | ||
Looks: |
Any | ||
Hair Colour: |
Any | ||
Eye Colour: |
Any | ||
Has a Photo: |
Non-negotiable | ||
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | ||
Home Language: |
Any | ||
Other Languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Christian / Other | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Divorced; Widowed | ||
Have Children: |
Yes, not living with me | ||
Want Children: |
No | ||
Daily Diet: |
Any | ||
Smoking: |
Any | ||
Drinking: |
Occasional Drinker | ||
Education: |
Some University / College; Technical Diploma; Associates degree; Bachelors degree; Postgraduate degree; PhD / Post Doctoral | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Comfortable; Wealthy; Fat cat |
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- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
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